What is friendship anyway.....

[quanganh]

What is friendship anyway...

Some people say that friendship is the only channel that human beings can ever experience true security. A good friend is hard to come by, but when they do come you can usually expect to share some common interests - they may like the same sport, go to the same school or be on the same wave length with you. Because of these qualities some people develop many acquaintances, but only a few good friends in their lifetime. It is said that companionship ends and true friendship begins when someone knows what you are really like, but still like you anyway. A true friend shows dedication and loyalty from the very beginning of the relationship. A friend will go through challenges to help you without expecting anything in return.

A "friend" today may unknowingly become a "true friend" tomorrow when they get involved in unexpected circumstances together with you - such as when you are going through a difficult experience and your friend was there to help you out. On occasions it is said that you can count your true friends on one hand.Other people seem to go through life having a multitude of friends. They may be funny or they may have a bright and pleasant personality. For these people, wherever they go, people seem to like them and welcome their company. However others seem to go through life with no friends at all. They like to be alone, to travel by themselves or to do their own thing. Others though, thought they had good friends, but when they go through challenging life experiences, their friends were not there to help them.

I guess the point is that in some cases friendship can be real, while in other cases it's merely lip service.

Collected by Van Anh

[Fornax]

Wonderful topic, Van Anh! We all need friends. And I agree with you on many points. Friendship is "Give and Take", and applies to both sides of the relationship. You can't just "Take" to be a genuine friend; you must nurture the friendship by "Giving"... giving your Time, Trust and True Interest. However, I don't believe a friendship just happens overnight. In fact, I believe that there are different levels and degrees of friendship. My experience has been that a friendship grows in "stages", as both sides give of themselves. Which is why it is important not to give up too soon on what seems a failed friendship. This is because a true friend will also Understand and Respect the other person's circumstances and personality; a friend shows Empathy. For example, if we think that our friend should dedicate more time to the relationship, instead of breaking the new friendship, we must Understand that the relationship is just beginning (it's in the initial stage), and that maybe because of the person's upbringing, it may be hard for them to approach us as much as we would like. Or it may be that the person is experiencing a very difficult time at home or at work, and the stress may not permit the person to give more to the friendship at that stage. So, again, I think that Understanding, Discernment and Insight will help us make more friends, as we allow time for every relationship to grow, and possibly become one of the best and most intimate of friendships!

[camdorac_likom]

Two most valuable things that GOD gave human are intelligence and friendship.

[camdorac_likom]

[from my favorite song]
.....What could be any better than
Knowin' someone will be there when
you gotta pour your heart out.
Tell your secret to someone who lets you be yourself
There when you need help
They've got your back ,win or lose....

[girl]

As the old saying goes, a friend in need is a friend indeed. I'd say friendship is a tie between sincere guys.

[joelpietersen]

At this time, it is quite difficult to distinguish real friendship from the fake one.

[tommyphuong]

I 've thought of that,a friendship need loyality and believing each other,try their best for the future